There is a difference between those who have been diagnosed by a doctor, to have clinical depression and those that are depressed or down, due to their situation in life. If you have been diagnosed with depression, as many have, including myself, you have a true chemical imbalance that causes you to feel depressed.
I was depressed for a long time, before I sought help from a doctor. I know many others, who have done this and it seems that the main reason is that we don’t want to admit there is a problem or we don’t want to take any medication for it. My first really bad experience with depression, was in college and I thought that it was due to my grandfather’s death and this probably triggered it, but I found out years later that it was a combination of chemical and situational depression. During this time, I felt that I couldn’t reach God, I would pray, but I couldn’t feel that God was there. Like there was a wall between us.
The great news is, that the Lord answered my prayers for help! During a chapel service, the preacher said that the Lord spoke to his heart, that there was someone there, who felt depressed and that God wasn’t there when they prayed. I knew the minute I heard this, that he was talking about me! I went to the front to be prayed for and I was the only one who responded to this. After this happened, I felt much better! Years later, I began to feel down and I was very irritable. I didn’t know that being irritable, was a symptom of chemical depression, of course not this symptom alone, but it was part of it and I wasn’t even aware of it at the time. When I thought of depression, I thought the symptoms would be feeling very down, upset and crying all the time, having a loss of interests in the things that were favorite activities and even feeling suicidal. I want to stress to you, how important it is to get help, especially if you feel suicidal. Being irritable all the time, caused me to be mean sometimes to others, especially those I love and it didn’t even cross my mind that it would be a symptom of depression.
God gave us many promises, including helping us with our depression. In Deuteronomy 31:8 (NIV) “The Lord himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged.” My favorite verses are in Romans 8:38-39 (NIV) “For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.” So even if it feels like God isn’t there, He is, so don’t stop praying! God may not answer you in the same way He answered me, but He promises that He will never leave us and will answer our prayers!
Dealing with disappointment, discouragement and depression can be really difficult. Our lives are filled with these, but we also have joy, excitement, surprise, love, accomplishment and happiness. We really don’t have to think much about what to do with these positive emotions. It’s much harder to know what to do with disappointment, discouragement and depression. I’ve had to deal with all 3 of these and I’ve learned over the course of time, that you can let these 3 D’s take over your life or you can be proactive and plan for these things to happen. I have depression and take medicine for it and I want you to know that depression is a chemical malfunction, so I’m not saying, as so many people do, to just stop being depressed and be happy! I understand that is not possible if you have depression. With that said, there are things we can do to help ourselves with the 3 D’s. One thing that you can do, is to “stay positive and know what your happiness triggers are.” by Andy Andrews Simple everyday things in their lives that make them happy. Everyone has things in their life that make you smile or feel better. Spending time petting my cats brings my blood pressure down and I enjoy it. Another thing that we can do is to have something in the future that you can look forward to. For example, a trip that you’ve wanted to take, a movie that you’ve wanted to see, dinner out instead of cooking at home, spending time with family, etc.
As a christian, I can spend time in prayer and reading the Bible. Listening to christian music is also encouraging. I, personally keep a prayer list and a list of prayers that have been answered and how and when. I do this to remind me of the faithfulness of God, so when the 3 D’s come, it’s easier to find encouragement! I’ve also found that if I reach out to others in need, at a time when I’m down, it gets my mind off of my problems and makes me feel good that I’ve helped someone else. In Matthew 19:26, in the New International Version Bible, it says, “Jesus looked at them and said, “with man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.” This verse is a great reminder of what we can do with God. I know that in life, there will be times when these tips won’t take the pain away and that is normal.
An entrepreneur has to deal with the 3 D’s often, but we can do things daily that will help. Read and listen to encouraging stories and inspirations everyday. Stay in touch with other entrepreneurs, so that we can encourage one another and also know that we’re not the only ones feeling the same way. Step away from the computer or your business activities for a short time and do something else you enjoy. Talk to others, who are successful and you will probably find that they went through and still go through the 3 D’s.
So, let’s control how the 3 D’s affect us and not allow them to control us.