Love is not a feeling, but it is a commitment. When you “fall in love”, it’s more about what you have in common, time you’re spending together, friendship, companionship and of course, the physical chemistry that you have with each other. These are all important in a marriage, however the most important thing is the sincere commitment that you make to each other. This may not be what most people consider romantic love, but without it, your future together will, most likely be very short. Why, you ask? Life gets in the way. You will go through difficult times in your life together. It’s hard to be “romantic” when money is tight or illness becomes a part of your life together or you don’t agree about how to discipline the children. I could go on and on with the difficulties that tend to pop up in our lives, but this post is about how to make sure that your relationship is solid and ready for anything that comes!

There are also times in your life together, when he/she irritates you or their hobbies or interests don’t mesh with yours anymore. As time goes by and we get older, we do change and sometimes we begin new careers or it seems that your lives are going in opposite directions. When these things happen, if you’ve made a true commitment, not based on feelings, you can get through all these obstacles. You’ve heard people say, “we fell out of love”. This is really a ridiculous statement, it’s really that one or more of the things I mentioned above has happened. This is the reason for “commitment”!

My husband and I have been married for over 25 years now and we’ve been through many difficult things together, but our love/commitment to each other stands firm and our relationship is stronger because of these difficulties that we’ve shared. I could never tell you everything in this blog, but someday in a memoir. We’ve been through extreme financial difficulties, disagreements about where to live, infertility, not to mention the adoption of our boys from Ukraine. So, whether you’re just in love or your engaged, or maybe you’re even married, I hope and pray this helps guide you in making the right decisions for your life and theirs. From a personal standpoint, I can say that this commitment is extremely important, to the success of your marriage. So, remember these things and be on the lookout in the future for our memoir.






Everyone wants to be liked! Learn how to have more friends, a new love and prospects for your business. I’ve been reading a book, that has been truly eye opening, “The Secret Laws of Attraction: The Effortless Way to Get the Relationship You Want” by Talane Miedaner. It doesn’t matter if you want to have better relationships or attract more prospects to your business, this book is very helpful for both. Have you ever wondered why you need to be acknowledged, taken care of, in charge, be independent, be right all the time, have things in order, be responsible or have great integrity and honesty? We all have needs and if our needs aren’t met, we have a hard time with whatever we are trying to accomplish. “The only way to get past a need is to fill it.” by Talane Miedaner The good news is, there are things we can do to get our needs met! The book mentions, if one of your biggest needs is to accomplish, achieve, get results, you could write things down that you have accomplished, so you can see that you have met this need.
If you come across needy or desperate, because you haven’t made sure that your needs are met, people will notice it and it will not have a positive outcome in your relationships and in your business either. So, if we figure out what our most important needs are and work on getting them met, you will find, not only that you’re happier, but also that your relationships get better and you will become like a magnet, in your life and business. I highly recommend this book, just remember that it’s not just a book to read, but a book to work through, as well. The more we learn about ourselves, the more sincere we can be in our lives.